Asuryan's Flames

I was always raised to be polite, I know it is harder now a days with a lot of people acting like they where raised in a zoo, but even in games I try and be polite. So, this weekend my guild leader let me have the reigns of the oRVR group running around. Normally, I run all things PVE so this was not a huge challenge, largely because destruction did not come and try and contest us so we where playing musical keeps.

Of course people come and go in the warband as we go from zone to zone, then we reach KV for a second time and start to take it. We are on the last BFO when destro starts to go on the offensive at the north keep. I ask the warband if they want to go or move on; someone scouting says that they have 4 warbands to our 1 and they are already through the first door. With that information I make the call to move on. This is when trouble hits, and of course it is only one person. He starts yelling in local that we are doing rve, and that we don’t have any clue about what we are doing.

Now, I am no fool, and the last thing I would do is run from a fight, but when you have almost a 4:1 odds there is no point unless you are already barricaded in the lord’s room ready for the attack. So we move on and interesting Mr. Speak out follows us back to Reikland.

This same individual is with us at the BFO right before the last keep which was already Order's so we where just finishing up the BFO's. So, destro strikes the south keep, and there is a warband in it already, so we where waiting for the bfo to finish capping. Several of the warband members keep asking to go defend so I say go to the south keep and a few of us stay to defend. This is when the outspoken speaks up again saying that we all need to be there and that he knows better than any of us, mind you coming form a level 30. So after it caps I kick him from the warband. Then it starts in region chat.

Now I usually don’t entertain this but he kept crying about getting kicked and they we don’t have any clue how to play so I tell him, I tried to contact the warband in the south keep to get an organized communication between the two of us. They chose not to reply so I chose to do what was in the best interest of the collective and not this one individual. If they had wanted help it was there, I offended it, but people are stubborn, and I can’t make them ask for it.

I have yet to hear back from him but I did get a tell from another healer who frequents my warbands and he stated that the above individual will fade away like those before him who thought that screaming and kicking against what everyone else wanted to do would be successful.

Now I understand that we are a team, and I respect that fact, but as a team we have to be supportive and communicate. If there is no communication then there can be no solid support. Even being out numbered, as long as you have good communication then you can have effective defense and very effective offence. More over people who are being blatantly rude, there are ways to approach a situation without being a jerk. Talking like an adult is one way, and not dropping and F-bomb in every thing you say is another. I will respect any opinion that is presented, whether I agree or not. I think that is a valuable part of leadership, but going so far as to insult me, my guild, and the people who are having fun playing the game with me. That is not acceptable but it divides our forces, so we are defeated even before the enemy gets to us.

As I stated in an earlier post and I still agree with it, respect goes a long way. Even if you don’t agree, follow for now, maybe even try your hand at leadership and see if it is everything you expect. Ultimately I, no one can make everyone happy; there will always be someone who thinks they can do better, so let them. Let them see what it is like then they might understand.